For those of you following along with this year’s theme, section 10 focuses on “Speaking Out” from the twelve categories of shame list created by Dr. Brené Brown. Her research on shame-resilience and vulnerability demonstrates for us all, how and why to live a wholehearted life.
How often have we held back from speaking out for fear of what others would say or do? Or worse, that they fail to even hear our message?
From another perspective, how often have we judged and/or shamed others for their efforts at speaking out? How dare they? Right?
And from yet another perspective, how often have we spoken out when our motive for doing so came from a place of wanting to hurt others?
The three key components for this section:
- Allowing ourselves to speak our truth, from a place of truth
- Allowing others to speak their truth, from their place of truth
- Letting go of our fear of how others will react…trying to control the reactions of others is as futile as trying to pick up water with a fork
In order for us to speak our truth, we must reconnect with and recognize who we really are, letting go of the veils of false personas and fears that hide the precious gems that we really are inside. By allowing ourselves to be vulnerable in this way, we free ourselves from the burden of maintaining these illusionary veils.
Yes, we risk the backlash of others for whom our words trigger their own burdensome veils. And yet when we come from a place of truth, most people will stop and take note, connecting with us on an energetic level…recognizing the truth about us and ultimately about themselves. From there they can either run and hide or be inspired to discover and speak their own truth.
One way to reconnect with the truth about ourselves, is to be ever present as we go about our day, determining whether what we are doing, being, saying is really who we are. Do we really believe what we’re saying/doing/being? Do we know if it’s the truth about us or just a role we’re playing out to make others feel safe or good about themselves?
Ponder this as you color this month’s section of the 2013 Mandala of the Year.
when we speak our truth,
we allow others to do the same
Be sure to download/color the October 2013 Mandala of the Month.
Amazingly powerful books by Dr. Brené Brown (I’ve read all 3):
- Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
- The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
- I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Making the Journey from “What Will People Think?” to “I Am Enough”