For those of you following along with this year’s book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway” by Susan Jeffers, PhD, here’s a bit of Chapter 9 (“Just Nod Your Head — Say ‘YES!’ ”).
This month’s mantra “Say YES!”, while easy in concept, may be a bit of a challenge in reality. I hope to offer some insights to help make it easier.
Abraham (Esther Hicks) talks about two states of being: allowing/resisting, which ties in nicely with what Dr. Jeffers talks about in this month’s chapter. At any given time, we are either “allowing” or “resisting”. The trick is to be continuously aware of which state we are in, then making adjustments as needed.
“Saying YES” / “Allowing” means accepting/surrendering to what “is” in this moment…it is what it is. From this place of being we can take action one way or another that will move us forward. Conversely, “Saying NO” / “Resisting” means rather than being present with what’s actually going on in our lives, we’d rather go into victim mode and proclaim “woe is me”, “I can’t”, making excuses, basically telling everyone to come down to my pity party. It’s the difference between moving forward (allowing) and staying stuck (resisting).
So instead of focusing on the problem, who’s to blame, and all that (except to learn from it), turn it around. If stuck in traffic, for example, we can “resist” it by being pissed off, annoyed, aggravated, worried, stressed, etc. or we can surrender to the fact that we are stuck in traffic…now, how can I make the best of it. At the very least, take a deep breath and just be for a moment. Dr. Jeffers suggests keeping self-help audio recordings or books-on-cds handy in our cars.
On a grander scale, the “Say YES” mantra applies to our life situation. We can bitch and moan about it or we can say YES and take action.
Saying yes means getting up and acting on your belief that you can create meaning and purpose in whatever life hands you. Susan Jeffers, PhD
She presents examples of people who have overcome incredible odds, creating amazing lives for themselves…including Victor Frankl who wrote “Man’s Search for Meaning”, his book about how he and others like him faced life in a concentration camp by creating a positive experience out it.
This topic makes me think of John Walsh who tragically lost his son, Adam, in 1981 due to a mall abduction/murder. From that, he created “America’s Most Wanted” and to-date assisted in capturing almost 2,000 fugitives and returned over 50 missing children to their families.
At its simplest, “Say YES!” means making lemonade when life hands us lemons. Or as I saw on zazzle.com “make grape juice, then let the world wonder how you did it!”
Maureen, The Mandala Lady
Be sure to download/color the September 2012 Mandala of the Month.